As you may have heard, Valentine’s Day is this Sunday. Whether or not you think it’s a true holiday, be assured that florists, candy makers, jewelers and greeting card companies are counting on the rest of us to celebrate love and romance. Although I believe love should be celebrated and acknowledged every day, I am certainly not adverse to some pretty flowers and a love letter. Diamonds or any other precious hunk of geology will work, too.
Valentine’s Day is all fine and good if you’re in a great relationship. But what if you’re in a relationship and you’re not happy? Well, you’re in luck because this week is also Dump Your Significant Jerk Week. (Is it saying something that love gets one day but dumping someone gets an entire week…)
Now, I am not here to be a Dr. Phil but I will say that if you are in a relationship and your gut is telling you there’s something wrong, I advocate listening to it. Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t respect and love you. You and you alone know what kind of person you want to spend your life with. Love at first sight is possible, but it’s more likely you’re going to have to endure some bad relationships before you find ‘True Love’.
Let’s imagine that one day you meet a man, and he’s witty, charming, and attractive, plus he digs you, too. You’ve gone on a few dates, and it’s all going along swimmingly until he casually mentions he does yoga/belongs to the NRA/hates vegetarians/voted for the other candidate.
Would that be a dealbreaker?
Obviously, behaviors such as dishonesty or infidelity are huge dealbreakers, and others might be smoking or drinking too much. But I’m talking about the quirks and habits that some people might be able to ignore but others can’t live with. Is he shorter than you, does he wear brown shoes, did he not call you back soon enough? Yes, those are actual reasons I have personally heard for breaking up with a man.
What’s your dealbreaker?
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Right wing extremism would be a big one. Fortunately, there really aren’t any in my circle.
Not being able to spell definitely is another. DefinATEly drives me insane.
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I can’t think of one specifically… but I did go on a date recently and the guy, although nice and exceptionally good looking, was (a) two years younger than me, (b) a smoker, (c) had a streetbike- not a motorcycle, a streetbike, (d) didn’t go to college, and (e) was an Ozarks-is-better-than-Tablerock person. I’m not saying any ONE of those things was the dealbreaker… but the combination of the five really got me. Oh, that and the fact that I met him at Talayna’s (try explaining THAT to your kids….).
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1. I have loved Valentine’s day ever since my first school party where we got to make our own mailboxes for our Valentine’s. Significant other or not, I have always loved it. Including the day I broke up with my boyfriend of like 3 years. On Valentine’s day. It was amazing!
2. Dealbreakers… Not using proper grammar in text messages (If I’m letting you get away with texting me instead of calling, you’d better use punctuation and spell words out, okay?). Not using turn signals when driving (if he’s inconsiderate to other drivers, who else is he inconsiderate to?), booing the other team instead of cheering for his team (classless). Smoker. The first three would give a guy two strikes in one blow. Smoking is three strikes in itself!
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