What defines “sexy?” You know you are sexy, you are still complimented by random strangers/friends, but has your man forgotten how sexy you are? What do men find insanely attractive? By following some quick, simple tips, you will forever remain sexy in your man’s eyes (not to mention the other guys turning their heads when you walk into the room!).

1. Maintain Your Independence – This is a no brainer. Men love when women seek their own independence. Keep your own set of friends, work to advance in your career, enjoy your own “me” time, away from your man. No guy seeks a clingy chick, as this is viewed as needy, and perhaps even desperate.
2. Be Competitive -  When you hear the word “competitive”, you likely think of numerous negative connotations. In fact, the first image that pops into my head is a roomful of guys, drinking beer, wearing sports jerseys, and throwing darts or shooting pool. How can this possibly be transferred to a lesson in uber-sexiness for a woman (besides the obvious mud wrestling or pillow fights)?? When was the last time you challenged your man to a game on the XBox, go-kart racing, or bocce ball after dinner? One of the best dates I’ve had in a while included an air hockey challenge! (Yes, in case you were wondering, I did put the smack down on him!)
3. Sustainable Confidence – It is in the way you walk, your posture, your take-charge attitude in a conversation, a meeting, or planning a dinner outing with friends. The manner in which you are self-assured about your choice of an outfit, a career change, or even in meeting with his mom will drive him wild.
4. Intellect – Yes, we know that men love the hair in a bun, dark rimmed glasses, a book on our lap, and an engrossed expression on our face…. The classic librarian look. However, besides the appearance of intellect, are you maintaining an open mind, engaging his brain, and bringing up topics that are important to him? If not, get started!
5. Appearance- From the obvious sex appeal in your favorite LBD, bare legs and crazy-high heels to your attention to hygiene, appearances matter with your guy! Does your hair still smell fruity, like it did when he first met you and loved winding his fingers through your hair to help you fall asleep? Is your breath minty, every crack and crevice is clean, fresh, and moisturized? These little things are items that your man noticed when you first started dating…remind him of them every day and show him the effort you put into your appearance is for your own benefit, but you certainly love it when he notices also!
6. Girl Next Door–  Men often grow up saying they want to marry a stripper. In reality, they grow out of this very quickly. They want a classy chick that can be one of the guys when a big game is on, one who maintains wholesome qualities most of the time, and yes, one who has a stripper side to her in other rooms of the house (or yard, parking lot, hallway, whatever…).
7. Get Dirty! – Can you change your own oil? Do you get down on your belly to clean the lime out of the water heater? Have you ever been caving, played flag football, camped at a “primitive” site, or had dirt under your nails anytime recently? If not, get on it! Bonus points if you do it short shorts and a cami!
8. Get his advice – Going car shopping? In the market for a new laptop? Ready to switch up some investments? Ask your man’s opinion about any topic in which he has expressed his own confidence. I’ll admit that I don’t really know why hockey players get in fist fights during a game, what type of bait is best to catch a good catfish, nor do I understand what an HDMI cable is, but isn’t that what men are for?
9. What “won” him over initially? Think about how you “upped” your game a bit when you were single and you “beat out” all the other women that may also have wanted your man. Does your man always stare at chicks wearing low cut tops, or those with long, painted nails? Girl, a mani/pedi may be in order!
10. Stay secure. As I focused on in a prior article, jealousy is NOT sexy! Rest assured that your man chose to be with you. If you’re in a healthy relationship, staying sexy, and chose the right man, you have no need to fear when his eyes stare at a waitress, or he suddenly gets three new female friends on Facebook. Remember that you are the one who he warms up the car for, brings you your fuzzy socks and a pontytail holder after work, and buys your favorite wine even though he can’t stand it. Just as confidence in your own attitude and appearance are sexy to him, staying secure in your relationship and not begging him to talk about “where this is going” or “do you still love me anymore” on a regular basis are also not insanely attractive to most men.

It is impossible to summarize how to maintain sex appeal in just 10 short tips. All sexy, sassy chicks that read these trendy online mags bring something special to the table. Learn to recognize your own assets, determine what made him fall for you in the first place, and play it up! Here’s to a sexy week ahead!

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About the author: 

Mandy Chapman is a native Midwesterner who has taught several dating seminars and written materials for numerous columns, dating materials, and message boards. She co-organizes a social networking group, the St. Louis Friends. As a dating coach, she has reviewed hundreds of online dating profiles, providing guidance, support and networking to struggling daters in the St. Louis area.